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damn the torpedos, full speed ahead!!!
Apr. 7th, 2003 12:58 ami'm BACK! did you miss me???? :)
okay, i'm home from my mom's..... gaaaaah..... what a weekend....
friday night we get into town and meet them at a fish restaurant. we had to have fish cause it was meatless friday for allen. no biggie i guess, except i got enough food to feed a family of 4. and it was fried, which isn't all that great. so we're sitting there talking and my mom keeps blabbing on and on about how no bakery she's talked to can do chocolate wedding cake. now that's bullshit cause i've been at a wedding that HAD one! but they were giving her some kinda crap about the chocolate would "bleed through" the icing. but then she tells me i will get to have a red velvet layer. if red velvet won't bleed through, the chocolate shouldn't either, right? so we come to a standoff and neither of us give in. we leave the restaurant and head home. we get there and there's a cake stand and two presents waiting on us. the cake stand was AWESOME. it reminds me of a wrought iron circular staircase. very nice. my mom's friend MADE it. so it's way cool. well, the two packages were a glass salad serving set. not what we registered for, but still pretty. the other was a dominoes set we DID register for. well then we went to bed and i could not sleep to save my life. i read for a little while but when i turned off the light to sleep i couldn't. i was up til 5:30 in the morning! i just couldn't sleep. i wound up turning on the light again and reading more. the book, good in bed, was SOOOOOO good. maybe if it had been boring i could have slept.... and i had to leave the light on to sleep. weird stuff...
so saturday was a special day. it was the anniversary of our first date, the first day i met him. the day that changed my life. so we celebrate by going to the marriage preparation seminar. we walk in and our names aren't on the list because we were orginally registered for an earlier seminar that we missed. so we rescheduled for this one. well we weren't on the list, but they let us in anyway. we walk in and i felt SO OLD. everyone looked so young. it was like a bunch of 20 year olds were in there. we wound up sitting up front because that was the only table with no one at it. i felt a little nervous, being a baptist in a catholic group. but the two other couples who sat at our table were both also "interfaith couples" so i didn't feel so bad. allen and i were "guinea pigs" tho. we were the first couple that had to stand up and introduce ourselves ("my name is allen. i'm a plumber. we're from raleigh. our wedding date is june *pauses and looks at me* 28." so then i went though that and had to come up with the unique fact about our engagement. i told everyone we met right before he went overseas).... oh well... it was a very well taught and interesting seminar. extremely informative. i honestly think it will help us.... except for the session on natural family planning. basically it's where allen and i both get to know my monthly cycle and either we abstain or not on my fertile days, depending on what we're aiming for. no birth control. now he gets squeamish about my cycle, i seriously don't see this as a viable option for us. but they have this deal about no scientific barrier coming between your body and God's will. the chicks leading the seminar swore by it and showed this video of all these couples talking about how it was the greatest thing in the bedroom since edible undies. they're like "there's no need for harmful chemicals in the woman's body." yadda yadda. but hey, i'd have to be on something to regulate my cycle anyway, so i told allen that i'm staying on the pill until we're ready to start trying. actually, i leaned over during the video and whispered in his ear "do you actually believe this bullshit?" he chuckled. he's told me in the past he doesn't agree with the church's view on birth control anyway and i reminded him of that. so there.... lunchtime was interesting. they told the caterers 36 COUPLES, they got food for 36 PEOPLE. so they got pizza and told us we could leave if we wanted to. so allen and i went and had burgers and fries. he said he was feeling claustophobic and needed to get out. the rest of the afternoon drug a little. my sleep deprivation caught up with me big time. they're showing all these videos and i'm just drooping.... the conflict resolution section was pretty good. then we got to the financial planning section and that just FREAKED ME OUT. now i'm toting a college loan debt that could buy a fucking brand new tbird.... plus my car loan. allen's just bought a new truck for work and his personal truck, plus HIS college loans. we could buy a HOUSE for our total combined debt. and i've got NO savings. the money he has left from his stint overseas is for wedding expenses. i'm sitting there going "we're screwed. we're royally screwed! look at what we owe!!!" and he's like "shhh, don't worry." my hugest worry is money to begin with and this did NOT help me one damn bit! but i felt better later, at dinner....we held hands or something the entire time. he was rubbing my back during the money section. i love that about him. he always touches me in some way. and it feels good.
after the seminar and we got our certificates to give the priest proving we went to it, we called my aunt lana who lives in belmont, the town where we were. she met us at the christian bookstore to pick out paper for our programs. they have church program styles so we found one we liked. then my uncle dan joined us. we went to dinner (at a delicious italian place coincidentally right next to the bookstore where again i got enough food to feed several folks). aunt lana and uncle dan are my godparents, so we're fairly close. we talked about the money and how upset i was. and they said alot to calm me down. they pointed out that everyone has to start and that we need to save money and let it build up and just pay off as much as we can as quick as we can. after dinner, they took us to michael's, the craft store, and we found a unity candle set and a cake topper. altho, it wasn't the one i liked the most... part of me wants to keep looking and see if we can find the one i liked. *sigh* but we bought the other one, well, they bought it. they spoiled the hell out of me. aunt lana is already addressing my invitations in caligraphy. plus she's making some wedding favors. and now they're buying us all this???? i feel so spoiled!!! after the store we went back to their house for desert. we didn't leave until 10:30. on the hour long drive back to my mom's my sleep deprivation REALLY caught up with me. i kept dozing off. we finally got to my mom's and i got to sleep. it didn't help that last night was spring forward. i didn't make it to church with allen this morning. i didn't even get up. luckily my mom listened to him and left me alone until almost 11.
we had lunch at my grandma's. my brother and his family met us there. my sister in law's birthday is wednesday so my mom had her a cake. my nephew was WIDE OPEN. i just don't like the fact that kids are just all out all the time. they don't seem to chill out or listen. i don't know if i'll be able to stand that. that's part of the reason that i don't own a dog. they're too much trouble. i like the independence of cats. but anyway. my sister in law got a chuckle out of her present. i got her some linen napkins when allen and i were in new orleans at new years. i put them in the box for my NC State bobblehead i got at mcdonalds. she unwraps that box and she's like "is this what it is?" this was funny because she went to NC State's biggest rival, UNC chapel hill. of course she knew it wasn't. and she liked the napkins. my mom got her a cake and gave her 20 bucks. it was funny. my nephew ripped open the card and dropped the dead president on the floor. and my uncle was teasing saying he'd probably think it was trash and clayton looks at him and says "this is money!" hehe and uncle ramsey goes laughs and says "yep, he's looking at me going 'you're crazy! my mom works at a bank mister, i KNOW what money is!'" it was really cute.
at dinner i asked my mom how a chocolate cake would bleed through but a red velvet was okay. and she gets all bitchy and says "we're not going to discuss this! i'm not going to argue with you." and i'm like "i'm not trying to argue. i'm just asking." again she blew it off and was like "we're not going to discuss it!" i whispered to allen that HE should have asked the question. she fucking respects him. the men in my family are more respected than the women by some people. my mom fawned over my brother growing up. my grandma fawns over my uncles. they all fawn over allen. probably thought i'd never find anyone. we finally left at 3. got home a couple hours later and went to the used bookstore. i found a few books i've been wanting. then we came home and unloaded the truck. then we went to the store and got pizza on the way home. after dinner i unpacked while allen put together our new microwave cart. man is it nice!!! we were so excited to get that. then he took a shower and i put him to bed in an oh so sweet way. and here i sit. my mom is pissing me off about this cake thing... i wish she'd just chill out and get the damn chocolate cake. it's MY wedding. it should be what *I* want. *sigh*
ah well, in an hour or so, i can go to bed. hopefully i can sleep tonight.
okay, i'm home from my mom's..... gaaaaah..... what a weekend....
friday night we get into town and meet them at a fish restaurant. we had to have fish cause it was meatless friday for allen. no biggie i guess, except i got enough food to feed a family of 4. and it was fried, which isn't all that great. so we're sitting there talking and my mom keeps blabbing on and on about how no bakery she's talked to can do chocolate wedding cake. now that's bullshit cause i've been at a wedding that HAD one! but they were giving her some kinda crap about the chocolate would "bleed through" the icing. but then she tells me i will get to have a red velvet layer. if red velvet won't bleed through, the chocolate shouldn't either, right? so we come to a standoff and neither of us give in. we leave the restaurant and head home. we get there and there's a cake stand and two presents waiting on us. the cake stand was AWESOME. it reminds me of a wrought iron circular staircase. very nice. my mom's friend MADE it. so it's way cool. well, the two packages were a glass salad serving set. not what we registered for, but still pretty. the other was a dominoes set we DID register for. well then we went to bed and i could not sleep to save my life. i read for a little while but when i turned off the light to sleep i couldn't. i was up til 5:30 in the morning! i just couldn't sleep. i wound up turning on the light again and reading more. the book, good in bed, was SOOOOOO good. maybe if it had been boring i could have slept.... and i had to leave the light on to sleep. weird stuff...
so saturday was a special day. it was the anniversary of our first date, the first day i met him. the day that changed my life. so we celebrate by going to the marriage preparation seminar. we walk in and our names aren't on the list because we were orginally registered for an earlier seminar that we missed. so we rescheduled for this one. well we weren't on the list, but they let us in anyway. we walk in and i felt SO OLD. everyone looked so young. it was like a bunch of 20 year olds were in there. we wound up sitting up front because that was the only table with no one at it. i felt a little nervous, being a baptist in a catholic group. but the two other couples who sat at our table were both also "interfaith couples" so i didn't feel so bad. allen and i were "guinea pigs" tho. we were the first couple that had to stand up and introduce ourselves ("my name is allen. i'm a plumber. we're from raleigh. our wedding date is june *pauses and looks at me* 28." so then i went though that and had to come up with the unique fact about our engagement. i told everyone we met right before he went overseas).... oh well... it was a very well taught and interesting seminar. extremely informative. i honestly think it will help us.... except for the session on natural family planning. basically it's where allen and i both get to know my monthly cycle and either we abstain or not on my fertile days, depending on what we're aiming for. no birth control. now he gets squeamish about my cycle, i seriously don't see this as a viable option for us. but they have this deal about no scientific barrier coming between your body and God's will. the chicks leading the seminar swore by it and showed this video of all these couples talking about how it was the greatest thing in the bedroom since edible undies. they're like "there's no need for harmful chemicals in the woman's body." yadda yadda. but hey, i'd have to be on something to regulate my cycle anyway, so i told allen that i'm staying on the pill until we're ready to start trying. actually, i leaned over during the video and whispered in his ear "do you actually believe this bullshit?" he chuckled. he's told me in the past he doesn't agree with the church's view on birth control anyway and i reminded him of that. so there.... lunchtime was interesting. they told the caterers 36 COUPLES, they got food for 36 PEOPLE. so they got pizza and told us we could leave if we wanted to. so allen and i went and had burgers and fries. he said he was feeling claustophobic and needed to get out. the rest of the afternoon drug a little. my sleep deprivation caught up with me big time. they're showing all these videos and i'm just drooping.... the conflict resolution section was pretty good. then we got to the financial planning section and that just FREAKED ME OUT. now i'm toting a college loan debt that could buy a fucking brand new tbird.... plus my car loan. allen's just bought a new truck for work and his personal truck, plus HIS college loans. we could buy a HOUSE for our total combined debt. and i've got NO savings. the money he has left from his stint overseas is for wedding expenses. i'm sitting there going "we're screwed. we're royally screwed! look at what we owe!!!" and he's like "shhh, don't worry." my hugest worry is money to begin with and this did NOT help me one damn bit! but i felt better later, at dinner....we held hands or something the entire time. he was rubbing my back during the money section. i love that about him. he always touches me in some way. and it feels good.
after the seminar and we got our certificates to give the priest proving we went to it, we called my aunt lana who lives in belmont, the town where we were. she met us at the christian bookstore to pick out paper for our programs. they have church program styles so we found one we liked. then my uncle dan joined us. we went to dinner (at a delicious italian place coincidentally right next to the bookstore where again i got enough food to feed several folks). aunt lana and uncle dan are my godparents, so we're fairly close. we talked about the money and how upset i was. and they said alot to calm me down. they pointed out that everyone has to start and that we need to save money and let it build up and just pay off as much as we can as quick as we can. after dinner, they took us to michael's, the craft store, and we found a unity candle set and a cake topper. altho, it wasn't the one i liked the most... part of me wants to keep looking and see if we can find the one i liked. *sigh* but we bought the other one, well, they bought it. they spoiled the hell out of me. aunt lana is already addressing my invitations in caligraphy. plus she's making some wedding favors. and now they're buying us all this???? i feel so spoiled!!! after the store we went back to their house for desert. we didn't leave until 10:30. on the hour long drive back to my mom's my sleep deprivation REALLY caught up with me. i kept dozing off. we finally got to my mom's and i got to sleep. it didn't help that last night was spring forward. i didn't make it to church with allen this morning. i didn't even get up. luckily my mom listened to him and left me alone until almost 11.
we had lunch at my grandma's. my brother and his family met us there. my sister in law's birthday is wednesday so my mom had her a cake. my nephew was WIDE OPEN. i just don't like the fact that kids are just all out all the time. they don't seem to chill out or listen. i don't know if i'll be able to stand that. that's part of the reason that i don't own a dog. they're too much trouble. i like the independence of cats. but anyway. my sister in law got a chuckle out of her present. i got her some linen napkins when allen and i were in new orleans at new years. i put them in the box for my NC State bobblehead i got at mcdonalds. she unwraps that box and she's like "is this what it is?" this was funny because she went to NC State's biggest rival, UNC chapel hill. of course she knew it wasn't. and she liked the napkins. my mom got her a cake and gave her 20 bucks. it was funny. my nephew ripped open the card and dropped the dead president on the floor. and my uncle was teasing saying he'd probably think it was trash and clayton looks at him and says "this is money!" hehe and uncle ramsey goes laughs and says "yep, he's looking at me going 'you're crazy! my mom works at a bank mister, i KNOW what money is!'" it was really cute.
at dinner i asked my mom how a chocolate cake would bleed through but a red velvet was okay. and she gets all bitchy and says "we're not going to discuss this! i'm not going to argue with you." and i'm like "i'm not trying to argue. i'm just asking." again she blew it off and was like "we're not going to discuss it!" i whispered to allen that HE should have asked the question. she fucking respects him. the men in my family are more respected than the women by some people. my mom fawned over my brother growing up. my grandma fawns over my uncles. they all fawn over allen. probably thought i'd never find anyone. we finally left at 3. got home a couple hours later and went to the used bookstore. i found a few books i've been wanting. then we came home and unloaded the truck. then we went to the store and got pizza on the way home. after dinner i unpacked while allen put together our new microwave cart. man is it nice!!! we were so excited to get that. then he took a shower and i put him to bed in an oh so sweet way. and here i sit. my mom is pissing me off about this cake thing... i wish she'd just chill out and get the damn chocolate cake. it's MY wedding. it should be what *I* want. *sigh*
ah well, in an hour or so, i can go to bed. hopefully i can sleep tonight.
